I have always been a goal setter. I think we all need something to work towards. I will admittingly tell you that most of my goals are typically fitness related. But I’m trying to change that. I strongly believe there comes a time (or times) in our life when we need change. Something to shake it up a bit, if you will. So, my goal this year is to be happy. I know, I know I’m unique. But seriously, I plan to intentionally do things to make myself happier.
Often times what keeps us from truly being happy are habits we don't realized we have formed. That is until we actually start to examine our emotions. With an overall goal of being happy, I clearly need specific things to work on. These goals are very honest, with both myself and y’all. Happiness is defined as a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Finding what is preventing you from being full of “pleasant emotions” can be a rough road to travel. But it is necessary. If you are offended by them, oh well. If you think I’m being harsh, walk a mile in my shoes. If you wanna talk about them, call me. This is not to say that these goals are by any means groundbreaking or outlandish, but sometimes the truth hurts.
Stop Overreaching for People
Yikes! That headline sounds crazy, right? But it is true. One of the silliest things that upsets me the most on a daily basis is constantly reaching out to people and not getting a response back. Or the only time we communicate is when I initiate it. This does not mean I am going to stop calling everyone I know and love just because they aren’t texters, callers or emailers; but it does mean that I am going to try my very best to let it go. This may sound harsh to some of you, but many of you know exactly what that feels like. This year I will stop overreaching for people. When they want to catch up, they will call. Or text. Or email. Or facebook. Or whatever form of communication people want to try these days. (Insert clip of Drew Barrymore in He’s Just Not That Into You walking down the drugstore aisle.) Whatever this ends up looking like, I have to remember my ultimate goal for 2016: Be Happy. If I have something to tell someone, I will call them. Otherwise, I cannot continue reaching out to find no response. This is something that takes away from my happiness. Although it may seem little, we all know the little things add up.
Take Time for Nothing
Dolce Far Niente- the sweetness of doing nothing. As the offspring of two event planners and the colored sharpie queen of Kentucky, I can honestly say that I have to fill out five calendars every month. These include desk calendars at two schools, the joint calendar on our refrigerator, an online calendar for family and most importantly my personal Lilly Pulitzer agenda. The fact that there are that many to enter, with color coordinating entries, isn’t the issue. It’s the ridiculous amount of plans we have every week/weekend. Now let me be clear; I completely understand that EVERYONE is busy. But I tend to plan something for every waking moment, just because I can. We love to travel, our families both live out of town and in reality I just love planning things. I enjoy every aspect of planning dinners, trips, girls nights, etc. The problem arises when I have (and really my husband too) no time for ourselves. It ends up stressing me out. We have no time to clean. No time to relax. No time to do nothing. Which brings me back to my favorite line from one of my favorite movies, Dolce Far Niente- the sweetness of doing nothing. It’s Italian so we all know I’m already obsessed. It talks about the pure joy of doing nothing and how we don’t know how to do this. It is true, it takes effort for me to actually unplug and relax my brain. So this year I am intentionally planning time to do nothing. I intend to fall in love with dolce far niente.
Visit Three New Places
I love to travel. I love experiencing new places, food, people, culture, all of it. I married a sweet country boy that didn’t have the most extensive passport when we met. One of the coolest things about being with him is experiencing and discovering new places together. Traveling makes me happy and adventures to new places with my husband make me really happy. I chose three because one of our joint goals is paying off some things and I want to make sure that I have a realistic goal for traveling. I also just mentioned that I would plan less and I will be working on a balance between the two. (The first new place is a trip we are taking for his birthday, this weekend! More to come.)
Explore Mammoth Cave
Although this could go under the previous goal, I have actually been to Mammoth Cave. If you are not familiar, this cave is located here in Kentucky and has over 3,000 miles of underground passageways. Mammoth Cave is the longest recorded cave system in the world and right in our backyard! When I was a kid, my mom and I flew into Louisville and toured the cave as part of a fun summer getaway. It was interesting then, but I think I would appreciate the beauty of it more now. Although I am not usually one for an adrenaline rush, I always feel accomplished after experiencing something so exciting. Who knows, we might even camp while we are there! (Gasp! Crazy.)
Saving this for last was intentional, mostly because this will be the most accomplished goal when I reach it. If you are unfamiliar with Junior League, please take the time to read about what a wonderful organization it is. I researched the league in my area when I first moved to Kentucky but I was too far from the Lexington chapter. Then I started my provisional year in January of 2014, but couldn’t complete it because of time constraints with our wedding. 2016 is finally going to be my provisional year! (Happy dance) I am anxiously awaiting my fireside chat on January 17th where I will meet all of the other new provisional members. This will be an amazing opportunity to surround myself with other strong, successful, poised women. The volunteering opportunities with Junior League are endless, which is one of the biggest draws for me. Giving back to a community that has helped mold me into the woman I am today would be a very heartwarming experience. I look forward to the events already planned for 2016 and my future with the league. This is a goal for 2016 because I want to truly absorb everything it has to offer, as well as utilize my talents and strengths to enrich our community of women. My Junior League goal is to give back, soak it all in and learn as much as I can from the plethora of leaders within the organization.
That about covers it. Cheers to 2016 and all that it has to offer! May we all be happy and healthy. Here’s to doing nothing, to traveling, to being content, to new adventures and most of all to relationships. Our relationship with God, family and friends.
Cheers to you!